Unity, respect, and hospitality are core pillars of Islamic customs. These values strengthen the bonds between family members by strongly emphasizing religious devotion and cultural traditions. Having been born in Pakistan, my friend Eesha has given me a unique perspective on these customs by sharing her family’s tradition and her own knowledge about how Islamic ideals have influenced her family’s way of life.

In many ways, Eesha’s life is centered on the respect she places on her parents, elders, and other family members. The Quran, the holy book of Islam, believes honoring one’s elders is both a moral and a religious duty. Eesha’s family values having grandparents involved in day-to-day activities because they believe that they can offer wisdom and direction, which is why her dad’s parents live with her and her immediate family. Eid and Ramadan demonstrate the familial bonds in a celebratory way. Last year, me and my group of friends were invited to her family’s Iftar. Iftar is the meal that Muslims eat at sundown to break their fast during Ramadan. We fasted with her that day and were treated to cultural foods and desserts that night, after breaking our fast with a date. Ramadan is a beautiful time that families use to reflect on themselves and prove their devotion, which was inspiring to see.

An image of me and my group of friends at Eesha’s sister’s wedding. It was interesting to see how Pakistani and Indian culture is similar yet different, and there was lots of good food and dancing!

Friday is another special day for group prayers in the mosque and lunch with family afterward. Common platters are used to serve traditional dishes like biryani, which represent the bond between family members. Islamic customs, particularly those of Eesha’s family, skillfully entwine religion, culture, and familial connections. These customs range from everyday routines to festive occasions and emphasize the values of the Quran. After spending a while as Eesha’s friend, I now have a stronger appreciation for her family’s customs and principles, which I hope to incorporate parts of in my own life.